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June 13, 2000
Dear Em & Lo,
This friend of mine is smart, sexy and a hell of a lot of fun. I'd like to cross that line with her, but every time I get close enough for a first kiss, I have to back off due to her "old people" smell. She is always clean, but somehow manages to always smell like a combination of cold soup, dirty sheets and baby powder. Urg. Are bad biochem vibes a sign to be reckoned with, or is there a polite way to request a change in her hygiene routine?
CS |
Man, that sucks. We have no idea. Let us know how it works out so we'll know what to tell the next person who asks. Good luck!
Smelling like roses,
Em & Lo
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Dear Em & Lo,
I'm a twenty-five-year-old single straight man. A few years ago, I was in a responsibly monogamous relationship. We both checked out clean, she went on the pill, and we stopped using condoms. It was nice. Too nice. Now I find I have trouble using condoms at all. I'll be good all through usual condomless foreplay, but as soon as the ole rubber comes out, my dick loses interest. As soon as it is off and I get some direct stimulation, I'm back in the game. I've had some luck with the ultra-thin kind on a good day, but on the average, it's a no go.
I'm not overly promiscuous, but am generally pretty liberal and sex positive, and think that sex is an important way to become close with someone.
It hasn't cost me a relationship or anything yet, but it has been a source of self-fulfilling nervousness for me, and tension in new relationships, especially if she can't or doesn't want to go on the pill. I feel that condoms are the most safe, viable, and accepted (expected) form of contraception, and I want to be able to use them. What should I do?
Knowing What I'm Missing |
Practice. Masturbate with a condom on. Invest in some top-of-the-line prophylactics, and see which you like best. Try the ones that are texturized "for his pleasure" (e.g. Kimonos, which are super thin, strong and have "sensidots" on the inside). As Yogi Berra once said, "Half this game is ninety percent mental." Try repeating The Little Engine That Could's mantra to get your own little engine to the top of the hill.
Missing What You're Missing,
Coach Em & Lo
P.S. Another member just wrote in to say this: "You should mention InSpiral condoms when you use a bit of lube inside them, you can forget that you even have one on. My wife loves them, too. Kimono Ultra Thins are a good second choice."
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Is baby talk a sign of mental infirmity?
hylas |
Yes. Em
No. Lo
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Em & Lo are not doctors, psychiatrists, or even particularly wise in matters of the heart and other organs. These answers are meant as entertainment. Well, they entertain us. We hope they entertain you.
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